You cannot change other people, you can only change your reaction. My parents and my husband have taught me this more than they realize. My mom used to repeat “you can only change your own reaction” all the time growing up. (She also used to say, don’t do anything you wouldn’t want on the front page of the newspaper.)
I still care too much about what other people think, but I’ve learn to react better and set up boundaries. I’m still not very great about saying, “no” and still try to do everything for everyone, but I am trying……….
On the plus side, I have a best girl friend that I’ve been able to confide in since I was 11. She gets my family. I get hers. We have a lot of fun together and we just spent a long weekend together on Whidbey Island with our boys.
She’s always been there and will always pick me up at the airport, now matter what time I fly in! We always pick up where we left off, even if months go by without getting a chance to talk, or see each other.